Article by Aleena Aspley 1st July 2014
EROTIC SPANKING is a fun activity to add to foreplay and when making love. If you search the internet you will find stacks of articles and scientific write-ups as to why erotic spanking should be incorporated into a healthy sex life. Why not introduce erotic spanking into your bedroom repertoire and give a whole new meaning to having your lover in the palm of your hand?
Believe it or not, in many cultures pain is seen as an aphrodisiac. With that being said, spanking can be pleasureable for both the giver and the receiver. Most men will fantasise about sensually slapping their woman and yes, some women dream of the same too. Whilst men tend to enjoy the control and dominance of the spanking act, women generally love the feeling of vulnerability and submission towards their man.
THE LINE BETWEEN PLEASURE AND PAIN
Chrissy Amphlett’s song “There is a fine line between pleasure and pain” really sums up erotic spanking. I personally love playing on the fine line that exists between pleasure and pain sensations and with the right erotic spanking technique, it can be difficult to identify if something hurts, or if it actually feels great
DOPAMINE IS THE SECRET INGREDIENT TO ECSTASY
Dopamine is one of the secret erotic spanking ingredients to an ecstatic orgasmic experience with your lover. Dopamine is a hormone that plays a number of important roles in the human body. Dopamine makes us feel happy and dopamine, is also active in the body’s chemical reactions that make us feel pain, which is why erotic spanking – a perfect combination of the two – is such an arousing addition to foreplay and love-making.
WHY DOES EROTIC SPANKING INTENSIFY ORGASM
The posterior is a prime erogenous zone and the sexual arousal nerves in the bottom are buried in a layer of fat that requires harder stimulation. Erotic spanking, is the ideal way to awaken the extensive nerve structure in the pelvis, to trigger a far superior orgasm. Spanking creates an amazing physiological response; the stinging of the skin increases blood flow to the bottom, pelvic cavity and nearby genitals, thus accomplishing “mechanically” what caresses and kisses do psychologically. Why not introduce erotic spanking into your bedroom foreplay repertoire, a sharp slap to the derriere actually increases blood flow and, as a result, builds arousal to supersonic possibilities.
MIX UP YOUR SPANKS
Erotic spanking is a form of foreplay and orgasm is the goal of both players. Therefore, the actual spanks should be mixed with caresses and gentle rubbing of the bottom and genitalia, and other foreplay if possible. The slightly cupped palm with fingers together in the best way to spank, as it makes a good smacking sound and reddens the skin without causing excessive pain. If your partner seems to be unmoved by such spanks, you can give a few with a flat palm and spread (relaxed) fingers — those are the stingiest — until your lover squirms or responds.
TECHNIQUE, TEMPO AND RHYTHM
A slow tempo, with an irregular rhythm, is the best technique, as the moments of anticipation between each stroke add to the tension and your partner’s excitement. Sensual erotic spanking is outrageously effective If your lover cannot tell when the next stroke might fall. Remember, slow down and take your time. It is not the number of spanks, or how hard or soft they are delivered, that brings your lover to elevated states of arousal, it is how long and how deeply your lover drops into sublime submissive helplessness and the total sexual stimulation of their bottom that is the key.
ENHANCE YOUR PLEASURE WITH TOYS
If you would like to add more pleasure, while you are being spanked, then I suggest introducing clitoral and/or vaginal stimulation with a vibrator or dildo. Men also love having their penis and balls teased and titillated when they surrender into erotic spanking pleasure. Also, if you want to have a rest between spanks, a vibrator to the derriere can sooth, spread and enhance sexual pleasure.
- Never spank anywhere other than the bottom and upper thighs
- Use a safe word and stop instantly when it is spoken
- Make sure the skin is properly cared for after a spanking by using a cool moisturiser such as aloe vera gel.
SPICE IT UP TONIGHT
Erotic spanking is the perfect way for couples to ease themselves into the delights of beginners BDSM. Sharing these kinds of experiences and each assuming a submissive or dominant role (or alternating between the two should you so wish) helps build trust in your relationship while at the same time pushing fun and excitement to the extreme.
Article by Aleena Aspley 1st July 2014