The Body Beautiful – I am not against PORN, the human body is very beautiful and should be celebrated. I have seen many naked bodies, male and female, since 2005 working as an erotic massage professional. It doesn’t matter really, what size a human being is, the body looks beautiful and sexy in all its shapes and sizes.
However…
I do see on a regular basis, men who are unable to reach orgasm, with their partner, during sex. The first question I then ask my male client is “do you watch much PORN?” The answer I am given 90% of the time is “yes I watch PORN on a daily basis.”
From a females point of view, it is very frustrating when your male sexual partner is unable to reach orgasm. I mostly see heterosexual men, and they tell me about how their wives are asking “am I not turning you on anymore” or what’s wrong with me?” Basically, the idea of a male not being able to reach orgasm, does not make logical sense to a female!
The Negative aspects of PORN
When men watch PORN on a regular basis, they rewire their brains to be visually stimulated only. On top of that, the images that the men look at need to be more explicit to get them off. An avid online PORN connoisseur, probably wouldn’t get off on a playboy magazine. Arousal is more effective if the images become more explicit week by week. A regular PORN aficionado would require PORN to be available, during sex with their partner, to get them to the point of no return and ejaculate.
In my opinion, PORN masturbation becomes self-serving. It becomes about your pleasure and not a self-giving and mutually reciprocating intimate sexual act with another human being. On top of that PORN masturbation is about external stimulation and the male body can’t reach orgasm without visual arousal via explicit pictures. How sad it that?
NAOMI WOLF writes in her article, “The Porn Myth,”
For most of human history, the erotic images have been reflections of, or celebrations of, or substitutes for, real naked women. For the first time in history, the images’ power and allure have supplanted that of real naked women. Today, real naked women are just bad porn.
After all, pornography works in the most basic of ways on the brain: It is Pavlovian. An orgasm is one of the biggest reinforcers imaginable. If you associate orgasm with your wife, a kiss, a scent, a body, that is what, over time, will turn you on; if you open your focus to an endless stream of ever-more-transgressive images of cybersex slaves, that is what it will take to turn you on. The ubiquity of sexual images does not free eros but dilutes it.
The reason to turn off the porn might become, to thoughtful educated people, not a moral one but, in a way, a physical- and emotional-health one; you might want to re-think your constant access to porn in the same way that, if you want to be an athlete, you re-think your smoking. The evidence is in: Greater supply of the stimulant equals diminished capacity.
